"I had the sad honor of facilitating a memorial service over the Internet for one woman who could no longer bear her suffering. She was not getting the symptom relief she needed, and she took her own life. Her own minister refused to do that service. He insisted that because of the manner of her death, she went to hell. It is my own belief that this minister may be very surprised when he arrives at that destination and she isn't there. She had already served her time in hell. I believe that religion is about healing and compassion, not about judgement.
"At about the same time, I heard about a woman living near Chicago who was suffering from unbearable pain. Her doctor had examined her and had diagnosed myofascial pain. Then he told her she'd have to "learn to live with it," because there was nothing she could do. Her husband could not stand to see her in so much pain, so he shot her and then he killed himself. Does her doctor understand what he has done?"In answer to the author's question, I think her doctor just doesn't give a damn either way. I've learned the hard way that doctors do not become doctors to help people, they become doctors so they can make money. There is no beating around the bush. Most doctors don't give a flying crap about the patient while she is in the exam room, much less once she leaves. When it comes down to living with chronic pain, you really are alone. If you are very lucky you may have one or two people there who really support you, but most people don't have that. I am lucky to have my Jim, but it is still me, and me alone, suffering in this state of chronic pain.